A 9-week intensive with Aella

Good at Sex

For men who want to explore active/receptive dynamics and feel their heart as part of the journey. Go beyond technique into embodied presence, radical honesty, and the inner work that makes you unforgettable in bed.

Join 200+ men transforming their intimate lives

What You’ll Learn

Nine modules, released weekly. Each builds on the last, taking you from foundations to mastery.

01

Introduction

Who is this course for, establishing your baseline, and setting intentions for the journey to Sex God.

02

Learn to Not Conceal Your Desires

Letting go into full honesty with yourself. Integrating shame, looking at the 'hidey holes,' and the practice that makes men genuinely arousing.

03

Starve Her Brain / Become Unmanageable

Becoming unmanageable as natural self-expression (not strategy), plus consent, tenderness, and the foundations that make intensity safe.

04

Sexual Subtypes

Understanding what you're into vs. what subtype she is. Reading the research, interpreting the data, and mapping the landscape of female desire.

05

Men Are Werewolves

In you are two wolves — keep them fed. Navigating sexual shame, tracking what women respond to, and spotting women who are into your energy.

06

Sex as a Status Game

Playing high, reading minds without violating boundaries. A practical scale of dominance moves from low risk to high risk, with context.

07

Advanced Dynamics

Generating the 'playing high' headspace through embodiment: meditation, improv, rejection practice, dance, and exercises that build sexual presence.

08

Abundance & Orientation

Orienting to life, dating, and sex from abundance. How having options makes men more moral, less defensive, and more prosocial.

09

Integration & Practice

How you treat other women matters. Putting it all together into a sustainable way of being — in and out of the bedroom.

What’s Included

Everything you need to go deep, stay accountable, and actually change.

Video Lessons with Aella

In-depth video lessons, interviews with men and women, and research walkthroughs released weekly.

Live Q&A Sessions

Saturday Q&A and Thursday workshop calls with Aella every week for 9 weeks.

Interactive Exercises

Hands-on exercises each week — scavenger hunts, journaling, embodiment practices, and group conversations.

Community & Profiles

A private community of men doing the same work. Connect, practice, and hold each other accountable.

What Men Are Saying

From men who took the leap.

M.K.
34, in a 6-year relationship

I came in thinking this would be about techniques. It ended up being one of the most transformative personal growth experiences I've ever had. My partner noticed changes within the first two weeks.

R.S.
28, single

Aella's data-driven approach made me feel safe enough to actually be honest with myself for the first time. The exercises are uncomfortable in exactly the right way.

J.T.
41, dating

The live calls alone were worth the price. Hearing other men be radically honest about their struggles — and getting Aella's direct feedback — changed how I show up everywhere, not just in the bedroom.

D.P.
37, married

I've read dozens of books on this topic. None of them came close to the depth and honesty of this course. Week 5 genuinely rewired how I think about desire.

About the Instructor

Aella

Writer, researcher, and one of the internet’s most well-known voices on sex, kink, and human desire. She has surveyed tens of thousands of people on their intimate lives and brings a data-informed, unflinching perspective to everything she teaches.

Pricing

Limited Beta Pricing

$2,500$1,000

One-time payment. Lifetime access to course materials.

  • All 9 modules — video lessons, interviews, and exercises
  • 18 live calls with Aella (Q&A + workshops)
  • Interactive exercises: scavenger hunts, journaling, embodiment practices
  • Private community and member profiles
  • Lifetime access to all recordings and materials
Enroll Now

Beta pricing — price will increase for future cohorts.

Frequently Asked Questions

You'll have lifetime access to all course materials, including any future updates. The live calls are available during the 9-week cohort period.
One new module unlocks each week on Monday. This pacing is intentional — it gives you time to absorb and practice each week's material before moving on.
If you're not satisfied within the first 14 days, you can request a full refund. No questions asked.
Plan for roughly 3-5 hours per week: watching videos, doing exercises, attending live calls, and engaging with the community.
No. The course is valuable whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship. Many exercises can be done solo, and the frameworks apply broadly.
Yes, all live calls are recorded and available in the course portal within 24 hours. You won't miss anything if you can't attend live.
The course discusses sexuality frankly and openly. Some material is explicit. It's designed for adults who want honest, research-informed education — not euphemisms.